What lies behind us and what lies before us
are tiny matters compared to what lies within us.
Well this week in Cape Town the sunshine has surely shone down upon us and even the birds seem to be singing a playful summer tune in excitement. It is not summertime yet but it really has given me a tickle of temptation for a refreshing cucumber infused gin and tonic and a longing desire for the hot months to come…
“One must maintain a little bittle of summer, even in the middle of winter.” Henry David Thoreau.
Re-locating, so I have done it all before but will that make it any easier?! Making new friends is challenging and I have to say I think this can become harder as you get older. Partly because most people have probably already got more friends than they can handle and many of these relationships run deep over time. I know I struggle to keep in touch with all my glorious, wonderful friends scattered around the globe as it is. Do I really need more? Well, yes I do! Especially when I just need to talk to someone in the same time zone and have a real live catch up rather than one on-line. Although we now have many great mediums for communicating nothing can ever beat reality.
The other part to moving is suddenly feeling like you don’t belong. You used to walk down the street and bump into some one you know, and even if you didn’t you at least knew where you were going! You didn’t even have to request the type of coffee you wanted because your favourite barrister already knew, now suddenly everything is foreign! You don’t know where the good coffee shop is and when you do eventually find it you are not sure how to ask for your favourite coffee anymore because maybe they call it something different in your new world…… and the question is what type of milk do they serve! Phhfffffttt… I have been living in coffee heaven in Melbourne so I may have turned into a coffee snob! At the end of the day none of this really matters, just enjoy the journey of finding out and you will probably make some new friends along the way…. and there is nothing better than chatting over coffee with a good friend!
10 TIPS FOR SETTLING IN TO A NEW DESTINATION:
1) Find your nearest conveniences. ie. food stores, gym, doctor, coffee shop (essential to the daily routine….yes?!) and once you start frequenting these you will start to gain a sense of belonging and begin to recognise friendly faces.
2) Do some research on-line, find out what’s on, search via google maps and see what pops up nearby.
3) Chat to the local people, let them know you just moved to the area…..most people are usually only too keen to help.
4) Check out a new coffee shop and absorb the vibe. (Clearly I love coffee!!).
5) Take a walk in the nearest gardens or some place green for instant invigoration.
6) Go to a lecture…..there is always somebody talking about something!
7) Take up a new hobby or keep going with your previous hobbies. (This way you will meet some like-minded new friends).
8) Plan something to look forward to at the weekend.
9) Hook up with a friend and if you haven’t found any yet….. Work on it……or at least go out for coffee!
10) Most importantly smile and the world will smile with you. Go on… give it a go… and I bet you will get a smile back! (Plus smiling makes you live longer….honestly it does).
You get back what you put in and sometimes you don’t always get back, but an open heart I guarantee will find kindness and love in return so just go for it…. after all what have you got to lose!
Do please share your ways of settling into a new country with a comment below…….
Well as I mentioned in my previous post a new path has revealed itself and I think I am going to take it!!
Indeed, I have been exploring and taking the steps which presented themselves to me and as I continued on my journey this signpost appeared…. hmmmmm…..
This is offering me more options than I had even considered!
Sometimes the choices we have are actually staring us in the face but we fail to notice what they are. Sometimes it is just worth stepping back for a moment and considering all you have in your life and realising there are always options. Even when the going gets tough it is always possible for you to turn a corner and change your life, head in a new direction and find a happier place. This doesn’t mean you have to travel to a new geographical destination, it might just mean you look at the world you live in with new awareness of what is surrounding you.
Well, in actual fact I don’t need to follow any of the directions this signpost is offering me because I have already arrived at the new destination. (Don’t get me wrong, I am an explorer and I will be covering all these destinations off at some point; if I haven’t already!). But for now back to the current situation…….. Where I am standing at the base of this signpost is where I am heading in due course to start a new adventure… Do you know where I am?
Several ideas for turning a new corner and looking at your world differently:
And if that doesn’t inspire you, well….
“Think left and think right and think low and think high. Oh, the thinks you can think up if only you try!”
― Dr. Seuss
A new direction on my journey has revealed itself and I think I am going to take it!
This year has all ready begun to unravel my future path with clear signs of how all the work in 2012 is beginning to pay off. The new path appears to be laced with possibilities and positivity which is filling me with joy and excitement. When we are inspired and happy the effect undoubtedly spreads around us and feeds into others which subsequently opens up further possibilities!
Taking a new path can indeed cause for concern and fear in where it may lead but with a positive attitude and an optimistic frame of mind it is bound to take you to a fruitful destination. If you can learn from the trials and tribulations along the way, make sense of what you have achieved and experienced, you are surely in a stronger place than before you set off.
Would you care to join me………….