How many chapters are there in a life time? I feel like I am entering a new chapter right now and not just because I have recently moved to another country but also as my age ripens and my being changes, mentally and physically in subtle but developing ways. I am also enjoying the first chapter of married life which is testing our commitment to the vows we made less than a year ago and challenging us to explore the depths of a harmonious and happy life together; as well as keeping our status quo as individuals!
Before you can make anyone else happy you need to be content within yourself and this is not always straight forward on a daily basis. For example, at the moment I am feeling a little out of sorts and unsettled with moving to South Africa but I am trying to focus on not letting these feelings get the better of me or shrowd the bigger picture, for if they do, they will also come into my relationship in a negative way. Instead I am trying to by all means share my feelings, a problem shared is a problem halved as they say, but also step back from them. Keeping contentment in mind gives me a hugely satisfied feeling and appreciation for what I have in my life.
Contentment is not to be confused with ones desires, for desires just create cravings and the want for more. Contentment is found in every day things, appreciating what you have in the very moment you are in. Even if it is turning out to be a bad day find one of the thousand things around you that is giving you contentment. For example, walking in the great outdoors, eating some fresh fruit, catching up for coffee with a friend, holding the hand of someone you love, watching the sun rise or set! They exist every where, you just need to focus on them rather than the areas making you feel blue or frustrated.
Living in contentment takes some practice and it is most easily done in the joyous times but it can become very effective if you can equally embrace it during difficult moments. When you learn how to be content during the challenging and tough times you become truly free. Just as important is the ability to accept the people in our lives for who they truly are, and not what we want them to be. This is also the secret to wedded bliss!
“Health is the greatest gift, contentment the greatest wealth, faithfulness the best relationship.” Buddha.