Re-locating, so I have done it all before but will that make it any easier?! Making new friends is challenging and I have to say I think this can become harder as you get older. Partly because most people have probably already got more friends than they can handle and many of these relationships run deep over time. I know I struggle to keep in touch with all my glorious, wonderful friends scattered around the globe as it is. Do I really need more? Well, yes I do! Especially when I just need to talk to someone in the same time zone and have a real live catch up rather than one on-line. Although we now have many great mediums for communicating nothing can ever beat reality.
The other part to moving is suddenly feeling like you don’t belong. You used to walk down the street and bump into some one you know, and even if you didn’t you at least knew where you were going! You didn’t even have to request the type of coffee you wanted because your favourite barrister already knew, now suddenly everything is foreign! You don’t know where the good coffee shop is and when you do eventually find it you are not sure how to ask for your favourite coffee anymore because maybe they call it something different in your new world…… and the question is what type of milk do they serve! Phhfffffttt… I have been living in coffee heaven in Melbourne so I may have turned into a coffee snob! At the end of the day none of this really matters, just enjoy the journey of finding out and you will probably make some new friends along the way…. and there is nothing better than chatting over coffee with a good friend!
10 TIPS FOR SETTLING IN TO A NEW DESTINATION:
1) Find your nearest conveniences. ie. food stores, gym, doctor, coffee shop (essential to the daily routine….yes?!) and once you start frequenting these you will start to gain a sense of belonging and begin to recognise friendly faces.
2) Do some research on-line, find out what’s on, search via google maps and see what pops up nearby.
3) Chat to the local people, let them know you just moved to the area…..most people are usually only too keen to help.
4) Check out a new coffee shop and absorb the vibe. (Clearly I love coffee!!).
5) Take a walk in the nearest gardens or some place green for instant invigoration.
6) Go to a lecture…..there is always somebody talking about something!
7) Take up a new hobby or keep going with your previous hobbies. (This way you will meet some like-minded new friends).
8) Plan something to look forward to at the weekend.
9) Hook up with a friend and if you haven’t found any yet….. Work on it……or at least go out for coffee!
10) Most importantly smile and the world will smile with you. Go on… give it a go… and I bet you will get a smile back! (Plus smiling makes you live longer….honestly it does).
You get back what you put in and sometimes you don’t always get back, but an open heart I guarantee will find kindness and love in return so just go for it…. after all what have you got to lose!
Do please share your ways of settling into a new country with a comment below…….